January 06



Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment.[1] In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection – Wikipedia

I guess it would be fair to say that any relationship requires Love. Family, Friendships and Romance….Love is the thread that weaves harmony into the heart strings, colour into the chords, and life into the music…..sounds true??

This does sound true, and trust me when I say, I am a romantic at heart….but for the sake of authenticity I can’t help but ask the old age question….Is Love really enough?


The divine Kylie Minogue showing some self love.

I too have been swept up in the fairy tale of what we call ‘True Love’. We cant help but surrender to the ‘Ken and Barbie Program’ and we are forever casting our attention to pop icons who symbolise this concept of perfect love….One only has to reflect on the wedding of Kate Middleton and Prince William to realise how the ‘collective consciousness’ relish in the belief of the ancient archetype of ‘True Love’.

Sadly ‘Real Love’ doesn’t seem to paint such a pretty picture. Love these days looks a little more like this…..(extract from Becs dictionary).

Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment (while it is useful and convenient).[1] In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. Disclaimer: Except in the case of breaking up, divorce, separation or when I put you in the ‘get lost and die file’.

I do realise I sound like a sadist here….but lets face it. I know this to be true of our society. So I ask you again….What is true love and is Love enough?

I do believe in true love but not in the ‘fairy tale’ sense of the word. Whether we are passionate about a cause, passionate about our work, friends, family or lovers unless we can love and look after ourselves first, then we are useless to anyone else.

Just as fairy tales have taught us to believe in true love, it seems to me that we have also been taught that it is not okay to love and value ourselves first. Poor Cinderella was saved by the prince, rather than removing herself from her evil sisters, and in the meantime the queen in snow white has been cast as evil for all of time because she thought she looked okay in the mirror…like that’s a bad thing !! Now I am not saying that extreme vanity is healthy here…but it is okay to think that you’re beautiful, and it is okay ‘Love’ and look after yourself before others!

I don’t know….but I do have a sneaking suspicion that there could have been many a marriage saved if both parties were willing to look in the mirror and ask what about themselves they were not truly loving ??

If we cannot value our own beauty, how are we to honour the beauty of those around us? If we do not respect the call of our own emotions how are we to hear the emotions of the people around us, and of the world? If we do not hear own voice, how are we to know when we are listening to someone else? And if we never stop to hear our own heart beat, can we really be in harmony with the heart beat of the universe?

I do think that ‘Love’ is enough, but not with out the work….the work being to love ourselves first.

‘True Love’ is learning to release the judgement and pain we cast over our own spirit, so that we are free to love and give to others without judgement, pain or attachment. True love is the ultimate surrender of control, so that we can embrace the dance of life with trust and commitment.

Within our hearts lives a Supernova….but at the end of the day true love can only shine, when the happily ever after starts with you.

Keep Shining,

Becs. x