I consider myself a lucky person. Lucky that I have amazing family and friends, a great job, and lucky that I live in one of the most beautiful countries in the world. I have never wanted for anything in terms of material existence… but the truth is I DO want more. I want validation, a reason to get out of bed, and I crave fulfilment in my life.
Some may say that I am ungrateful, but I would argue that I am hungry.
Hungry for enrichment, for passion, and starving for authentic purpose. My days are still filled with an unquenched desire to find more meaning. The validation of my life. The big WHY?
I know that over the years, I have validated myself via my family, my profession, my performance in the ‘play of life’. My performance thus far has been stellar, and well rehearsed. My identity is embedded within the script of this life, but Identity… is not the same as ‘PURE’ purpose.
I feel like I know who I am on a surface level, but I desire a way of thinking, and of living that embraces purpose, a reason and a meaning for living a life, that is bigger than my Identity alone.
I crave a BIG LOVE, with both passion and pain. With shadow and light. An authentic reason to be alive, where I stand-alone authentically aligned with a gift that is mine alone to give to the world.
There is no passion to be found in playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living – Nelson Mandela
Our family and friends, without a doubt co create our sense of identity, but do these significant others (VIPs in life) validate our independent life. Our reason ‘alone’ to exist?
What happens if you wake up one day and those people are not there? Life in itself is cycle of birth and death, so nothing should be taken for granted. There is no warranty or refund on relationships, and for that reason alone our relationships with other human beings are incredibly beautiful, yet so vulnerable. Love in its purest form allows us to embrace and validate our unique purpose, so that we can authentically support those we love, in finding their unique gift to the world as well.
This is the ecosystem of human life. If we rely on the people around us to validate who we are, rather than validating our unique gifts, can we authentically support the purpose of those around us? Do we instead draw down on energy from others, rather than grounding in our own talents?
As I mentioned our professional choices also align to our sense of identity, but I cant help but wonder if for many of us our careers are simply a means to an end, paying out our life rather than living our soul purpose. As a business owner, employee, family member or friend do you really know your WHY, and does it really ignite a light inside of you?
For most of us we spend more time at work, than at home. We hang out for a ‘Happy Friday’ and religiously complain about ‘Mondayitis’. One in Four people suffer depression, and generally speaking, a lot of people feel tired. Our souls are exhausted, from routine and structure. We live in a society that values power over passion, attachment to identity rather than soul, and acts on logic over heart. Is there not room for a ‘happy place’ that is centred in authenticity and balance, driven by our truth rather than safety and routine?
It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power – Alan Cohen
Finding purpose is not an easy journey, and it is a process rather than a destination. In fact like anything your passionate about the process of finding purpose, can leave you battered and bruised. I can see how it would feel so much safer to hold on to Identity, structure and routines. So much easier to grip on to the bars of our prison, even though the key is hidden in our own pockets.
What if every pain point, was a discovery of truth, and every hard hit worth the pain. What if your purpose represented a love so great, that your reason for existing is weaved intricately into every decision you make, and every action you take?
Would you really say no to that level of engagement in your life?
Are you brave enough to ask the question?
What would validate your life, and make your heart explode into the universe with the power and purpose of a SUPERNOVA?
Shine On. Becs x